Hello! The sun is shining here in Ohio, and it's shaping up to be a beautiful weekend! With it being April fool's day, have you been fooled yet? I have! My husband got me pretty good early this morning. The kids and I are planning revenge, so we'll see who has the last laugh! Something I thought would be interesting to blog about today is why people sometimes move or relocate to help them deal with their grief. I have personally witnessed this with friends and family members in my life. As I dove deeper into thinking about it, this is what I discovered. To me, it seems that being in a new place, new surroundings and a new environment demands a few things from us energetically. It requires us to be open to change and to also be vulnerable while also feeling in control, all of these, I feel are vital components of dealing with grief. The loss of a loved one will create a change in your life, one way or another. Perhaps family get-togethers aren't quiet the same. Perhaps family dynamics are different inside your home. Whatever it may be, we often resist that change, and cause ourselves to get stuck in our grief, holding on to the way things used to be instead of living in the present. The loss of a loved one, or grief in any form can also require us to be emotionally vulnerable in ways we haven't visited before. Vulnerability allows us to be open to change and accept what is. But all to often we convince ourselves that we are out control and allow our grief to consume us. So, how does this all tie in to relocating or moving to help you deal with your grief? Well, my personal thought is that when we are in a new place, we are stimulated in ways that changes our vibration, shifts our focus and gives us the bump in the right direction towards healing. And again, as mentioned above, the emotions we experience in that transitional phase are key. We have to allow change in our environment and even our routine as re-locating can easily change your lifestyle. This is a transitional phase that when we allow it under different terms, such as moving, we are also allowing change from the way things used to be with that loved one still here, to the way things are now-living in the now. Also, vulnerability is required when you move. Everything (most of the time) is new and unfamiliar, and you have to find ways to adapt. Isn't this identical to loosing a loved one? Not having them there is unfamiliar, things have changed and now we have to learn to adapt. Lastly, as humans, we often feel the need to be in control of our lives. Making the decision to move is a great way to fulfill that need, if that's what you're searching for. Sometimes, feeling out of control will assist us into depression further, so it's not always a bad thing to want to feel in control. Overall, in searching my own heart as to why people often move away to help them cope with the loss of a loved one, this is what I came up with. I think moving fosters the growth needed to heal and allow change. It requires changes within us to adapt not only to the move, but also the loss we've experienced. What do you think? Have you experienced this? I'd love to hear your thoughts! Have a peaceful weekend filled with Joy!
-- Love & Peace Spirit- Translator Kim Babcock firstname.lastname@example.org http://www.kimbabcock.net/